Why Can Love be So Hard Sometimes?
Whenever you wonder why it is so hard to choose sometimes. Whenever you wonder why a free human being is actually not that free. Whenever you wonder why love, a very beautiful thing, can grow into something difficult sometimes. Just remember that:
For love to be love, there must be action through a conscious decision. For a decision to be a decision, there must be choices and options.
Like the sun who knows it needs to rise when the morning comes to show its perpetual love, lovers also should know what actions are categorized as love, and what actions are not. Is it consciously and intentionally hurting the one you think you love is an action you call love? Is it trying to make your loved one smile and happy is an action you call love? Your call.
For love to be love, there must be a sacrifice to undertake. For sacrifice to be a sacrifice, there must be a presence of a situation where your ego can be compromised.
Like a tree who needs to let go of its old leaves so it has more compost on the forest floor to renew itself, lovers need to let go of their ego to love properly and create a whole new life together. Lovers need to believe that their lives are not all about their own pleasure, but also taking certain measures for the one that they see as their lives’ treasure.
For love to be love, there must be courage you have within. Courage to leave choices that will hurt your loved one. Courage to do all of these unconditionally. Courage to leave your wound, your past, your ego, and hold on to the truth that your heart always whispers to you.
Like a flower who blooms naturally in the spring with the power from the sun, lovers will do those things not out of a burden, but naturally powered by the love they have within for their loved one. An act of simple and natural courage. When they realize, regret is just a waste of life. When they realize, only loving with truth will set themselves free.
Since the very beginning of creation, love had been depicted as an act to choose consciously and wisely for the “object” that you love, instead of seeking mere pleasure. The luxury of feeling content, joy, or even ecstatic, should be a side-effect of loving, not the main goal of it. And that’s why love can be hard sometimes. Should our ego can be categorized, there are some of them that we are still not willing or ready to trade them off for the one we love. We think we have given up our “ego” for them, but on the other hand, those “ego” that you are still not ready to give up are what they actually need from us. And when you start counting the “love” that you give, instead of seeing this act as something that you need to do on a daily basis, that’s how love can be the hardest sometimes.
